Transfer #3 and Everything Since Christmas

The day after Christmas, we had our third and final transfer. There are no more eggs/embryos left and unless we want to do it all over again (remember, I’ve been doing infertility treatments for a year now) we are done. We came to accept that Kara could be an only child a few months ago, so I’ve been preparing myself (as much as you can) for the outcome. I got in an easy 6 mile run and we hung out until my appointment at 3PM. Of course Todd and Kara came. We transferred 2 embryos and then Kara and I hung out on the couch, being lazy and hopefully letting one of those babies implant! During the waiting period, I was told to take things easy, not to exercise or lift heavy things, but otherwise lead a normal life. I walked a few time on the treadmill to keep my sanity, but it wasn’t much and I still missed running- duh 😉

I tried to keep busy and spent a lot of time with Kara. We had the week after Christmas off and Todd was still sick, so we tried to stay away from him, haha. Kara and I spent a lot of time at my parents, eating their delicious food, getting froyo and hitting up different parks.We made lots of muffins, had lazy mornings and hit up an outdoor outlet mall near us that had THE BEST family restroom… I mean come on… a baby toilet AND a baby sink. How perfect is that for kids?! It got a bit cold here, so it was nice to be able to wear our coats and act like it was winter.

Todd finally started feeling better towards the end of our vacation (poor guy still has a lingering cough and congestion) so we hit up the zoo! We are mostly homebodies, but when I can’t exercise and we’re home all week, I have to have things to do outside of the house- hence so many days spent at my parents or Kristin and Rich’s… have I mentioned how much I love that they moved closer?! Anyways- the zoo was really fun and we got to have an up close and personal encounter with an owl! And Kara is all about lizards lately, so sitting on the Iguana was a highlight 🙂

Before I knew it, it was 2018 and we were back to work the next day. I love me a four day work week! I started taking pregnancy tests Dec 31 and when they were still negative a few days later, I knew I wasn’t pregnant. I took one final one on the day I would have had a blood test and it was negative. Now, you might be thinking that that’s a bit early BUT you have to remember that the embryo’s are already 5 days old when transferred, so had I not been on progesterone, I would have gotten my period by then. And what do you know, 2 days after I stopped the progesterone, I had a full, heavy period (sorry TMI). Obviously we were very sad/upset/ect but like I said, we had prepared ourselves for the worst. I’ll go more into this and how I’ve dealt/am dealing with everything in another post, but know that we are OK and so grateful for Kara! I’m making it seem like I was more OK than I really was, but again, for another time…I know you saw this coming!!! So what did I do after finding out we’d be a family of 3??? I ran of course! And hit up a Body Pump class. This was this past weekend and it was COLD for Florida! Saturday, when Jolene and I ran the 8 miles, it was 32 degrees with a feels like temp of 28! That’s really cold for us! It’s a nice change for a bit, but I don’t know how ya’ll northerners do it!We went to my parents Sunday afternoon for Rich’s Birthday. He requested fish tacos (which I ate deconstructed) and White Chocolate Oreo Butter Cake. We hide the cake from Kara, because if she see it, it’s all she wants. When Kristin went back to get the cake and Kara saw it… oh boy! She ran down the hall into the kitchen screaming CAKE CAKE CAKE! It was hilarious. This cake is so rich (no pun intended) and heavy and so freaking delicious. I decided that this was my last big hoorah before loosing some of the weight I’ve had to hold onto for baby #2. Not to mention all of the emotional eating I have/had been doing. So I cut an extra large piece- although our family always cuts huge pieces- and enjoyed every bite! Obviously Kara was the happiest girl!The icing on the cake (yes, pun intended) was seeing a baby lizard walking to the car to go home. I told you Kara was into lizards lately, well, this made her day. Plus, I had to share with you her awesome style… SO Floridian with the socks and sandals… she picked her outfit and hey, at least it all matched!This morning (Monday) I felt like Super Mom. I was solo parenting and was able to run 8 miles, shower, get myself and Kara ready, video chatted with Todd, drop Kara at daycare and get into work by 7:15AM… BOOM! See that hair? I didn’t wash it after my run. Looks fine though 🙂 Hope everyone is having a great Monday and I promise I’ll get you my post transfer feels soon <3

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  1. Your mom’s cakes always looks so delicious! I’m not a big cake person that every time I see those, it’s all I want. Thinking of you right now and sending you good luck vibes.

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  2. I know this process with fertility has been a tough one, but you are one strong lady and I hope you find peace with this all. Trust the process, and trust your body. You’re not a bad parent because this isn’t working out, you’re doing all you can and deserve a rest.

    And cake, you deserve a lot of cake.

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  3. I have been following your journey and am so sorry to hear the outcome. After 2 unsuccessful embryo transfers last year I’m starting round 2 of IVF this week. Going into it knowing what’s ahead is the hardest part. You have been such a trooper and sharing your story really does help others going through the same thing. Sending you best wishes for healing!

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    • The hardest part for me was always the TWW. I mean, the shots and bloating all sucked, but that made me feel tough, like “ya, I give myself 2 shots every night, I’m a bad ass,” haha but then there’s nothing to control and you just have to wait… SO HARD! SUPER good luck in this round for you <3 Sending so much baby dust!!!

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  4. I’m so sorry that you didn’t have success from your embryo transfer. We did IVF over 20 years ago (with success) but running was definitely my therapy. It’s tough to have to work so hard for something that seems to be so easy for so many people, right?

    Thanks for linking and I’m looking forward to following your journey.

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    • I think that’s the hardest part, knowing that it comes so easy/accidentally for some and we are pouring our hearts, time and money into this and have nothing. At least I have my sweet Kara, that’s what I keep telling myself.

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  5. That cake. Whoa.

    I’m so sorry that this transfer wasn’t successful. I’ve never had to deal with that so I can only imagine how difficult that must be. Sending hugs and prayers that you and your husband can heal. <3

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    • I love birthdays for the cake! Don’t care about the presents, just the cake haha. And thank you! I’m not a hot mess all the time, but certainly have my moments. It’s going to take a lot of healing <3

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  6. I’m very sorry the transfer didn’t work. I know it must be difficult to accept. Give your precious Kara an extra hug when you need to. 🙂 You Mom should open a bakery. She makes the most amazing, mouth watering cakes. I’m glad you have Jolene to pound out some miles with! Thanks for linking!

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    • I know Kara doesn’t really know what’s going on but she know’s something is and is being extra cuddly and sweet. She really is the best <3 I don't think my mom would like baking as much if she had to do it for a living, haha. And yes, Jolene is a life saver both on and off the roads!

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